Change is Good

Often in life, we are going through the motions not fully awake to what is happening around us.  I call it living in the gray matter. 

Then something happens that knocks us on our ass and shakes our foundation so hard we have no choice but to wake up. As painful as the situation may be, we know something must change, we must make a new choice. We can no longer sleepwalk in that gray matter. 

How many times have you found yourself in a situation where once it ended you could see clearly how unhealthy or toxic it was? And with a little more time of reflection, you wonder why on earth you stayed so long. 

The reason is you weren’t done experiencing the experience. Sometimes we don’t hear the gentle knocks to go, but we stay in it because we’re in it. Once you get filled up with all the situation came to give you, it’s time for a change. And change can be scary as shit. It’s also the best shit!

I felt this way about the final years of my marriage.  We were disconnected, things were becoming more difficult, and unraveling fast. I was married to the idea that I would be married to this man until the day I died. That thought almost killed both of us. 

We play the part we signed up for in the situation we co-created and attracted until we are done playing the role. If we stay in a toxic situation too long, we end up depressed, injured or sick. 

Every single thing is happening for us, not to us. Every negative event that shows up in our life is for our learning, evolution, and healing. The cool thing is we get to choose how we respond to the situation. Will we lay and play victim? Will we blame others? Or will we be gentle and compassionate with ourselves? Will we go within and heal the places that hurt inside? Will we forgive ourselves and others?

I am writing OWNERSH*T move from blame to bliss, victim to warrior, fear to love. I am also leading a Self-Love Fiesta October 5-8 in Cabo. Both of these are my offerings of love to bring more healing, happiness, and joy to you and the planet. You got this and I got you.  ❤️✨💥💃🏼

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