UNLEASH your messy imperfect life NOW!

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One thing I hear from newly married couples is, “When should we have a baby? We want one, but we don’t feel ready. When is the perfect time to get pregnant after getting married? Do we need a stable job, more money, or a bigger house?” My answer is always the same, there is no perfect time for having a baby or anything else you desire in life. If you want it, do it! Go for it right now and figure out the details as you go. We do not need to wait until we lose 5 pounds, have the new car, a new boyfriend, new job, we can do whatever the hell we want, whenever the hell we want, and that time is NOW! The only thing that can hold you back is you with your silly spinning thoughts of not being enough. Let’s stop that bullsh*t!

Byron Katie wrote a book called “Loving What Is.” I had to look up the name of the book because I was trying to remember, and I thought it was “Being at Peace with What Is”. But no, it’s way more. Actually, LOVING what is. That’s like having acceptance, peace, then actual LOVE for the thing that is happening right in front of you, no matter what that thing is. It teaches that we are exactly where we are supposed to be and experiencing what is actually happening. When we are in upset or in dis ease with what is happening in the present moment, we are causing self-suffering. If you were to get a flat tire in the rain you could cuss, scream, and yell at those around you. Or you could take a breath, assess your options, take action (call AAA) and make a note to put an umbrella in your car. You don’t have to like what is currently happening to you, but you can accept it and make peace with it as you navigate your way through instead of crumbling and falling victim to it.

Every single thing that is happening in your life right now is showing up to teach you. What is showing up? What are you learning? Are you open to understanding? Are you open to taking a pause, stepping out of the emotion, and asking, “Hmmmm, what are you here to teach me heartache? What are you here to teach me shitty relationship? What are you here to teach me asshole teacher? What are you here to teach me mean person in the elevator?” If you are open to it, you can learn from it. If you aren’t, the situation, event, obstacle, illness, or person will come back again and again until you learn what it’s showing up to teach you. I have a friend who had cancer and beat it. The doctor asked my friend, “What did you learn from the cancer?” My friend laughed and said something silly. I knew what the doctor was asking. On the way home, I asked the same question, “What did you learn from the cancer?” My friend said something silly again. I knew she had to learn on her own time and not from me preaching to her, so I shut my pie hole. I know situations come back again and again until we get the message that it showed up to teach in the first place. We will get a quiet tap, a punch in the arm cold cocked to the ground, and finally unable to stand, we are laid out on our back. Let’s start listening to the quiet tap and save ourselves from so much suffering.

Every interaction is sacred. Let’s stop bitching, complaining, and gossiping and start receiving what God is so graciously handing us on a silver platter for our learning. LOVING what is. What a concept. How cool would it be if someone hung up on you and posted something shitty on your Facebook page and you smiled and said, “Hello lesson. God open my mind and heart to see what it is that I am to learn. Is it that I am called to love all of God’s children especially the ones that act shitty because when you act shitty you feel shitty? Am I to try and communicate in a new way with this person? Do I need to work on my listening skills, so the other person feels heard? Hmmm. We all need love. The person that just triggered me needs my love. I am LOVING what is instead of taking it personally.” From the book The Four Agreements, the only agreement I remember is: Don’t take anything personally. The story we hold from our childhood of not being enough, being unlovable, or unworthy will take every single event that passes before us and funnel it through the lens of lack which then twists the beauty of reality into a shitty story that holds us back.

I am leading a 2.5 day UNLEASH your messy imperfect life workshop October 18-20 in Sherman Oaks. Get your ticket here for ½ price: (insert link). Last year there were 50 women at my workshop and this year there will be 100 like-minded women. There are not many things as powerful as seeing women unite, supporting and uplifting each other. I led a workshop in my backyard a while back and cried during it because I had just sent my 13-yr. old son to a therapeutic boarding school. When I brought up halfway through my talk that I had one of the roughest weeks in my life, I started bawling and choked out, “I feel like I can’t even take care of my own son.” The women sipped on their cucumber martinis as they watched me weep and waited patiently for me to compose. Once I did, I thanked them for allowing me to let it out (I was surprised how bad it needed to come out) and got back to the talk. When it was over, a woman lingered until the end then came up to me and said, “I almost didn’t come tonight because you are so perfect. You are pretty, in shape, married to a Hollywood actor, have a beautiful family and a nice house. I thought being around you would make me feel worse about myself and what is going on in my f’d up life. But when you cried tonight, I realized you are messy just like me. Thank you so much for sharing your mess and showing me there is light at the end of my tunnel.” As she said these words, my body lit up. I knew I needed to always start with my mess, then share what I learned from it. I have come to know how important sharing the mess is. That is where we can be vulnerable, relatable, and deeply connect with others. Most importantly it supports the foundation of my work, reminding myself and other You Are Not Alone.

UNLEASH your life with me!

UNLEASH your messy imperfect life

Using my 10 Step Program we will:

1. Identify Your Pebble (Story)

2. Rewrite / Replace the Pebble

3. Two things we need-the rest is white noise

4. Coming Home

5. The Power of Our Thoughts

6. Being in the moment. What a relief it is.


8. OWN Your Power Story

9. Partner with Power

10. Just Serve

I am LOVING the new perspectives of life from the guests on my messy imperfect life with leigh podcast. The guests talk about something messy from their life, what they learned from it and how they are using it as a source for good now. It’s pretty awesome. SUBSCCRIBE here: www.leigh.la/podcast

I can’t wait to be with you in my kick ass, uplifting, and giving women their balls back (from the inside out) UNLEASH your messy imperfect life workshop (some cool celebrity guests will pop in).

Get your sweet tush in your reserved seat by clicking here: (link).

Sh*t’s going to happen, but you do not have to be derailed; instead practice gratitude knowing from the mess comes our magic. We’ve got one shot with this wild ride. Come with me just as you are, roll up your sleeves, and let’s get messy!

My messy podcast and workshop fills my heart with joy and will; assist you in waking up, impact your life deeply, and connect you to a like-minded community of badass women. Let’s end our suffering, smash our crippling limiting beliefs (our pebble) and start to co-create our lives by connecting to the good within and embracing life, mess and all.

Let’s live UNLEASHED!

Subscribe to podcast: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLvj_3dzmP9_3XmDt9DFBPQ
Sign up for workshop: https://messyimperfectlife.lpages.co/unleashed

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