My Kids See All Of Me

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Hello mothers! How is life? I hope it's fantastic.

I love this picture because you can see my sweet firstborn daughter Margot watching me. That’s what our children do.

Is all of your energy focused on your children? Are they doing what you want? Digging the things you want them to dig?

Are you losing yourself to make sure they have all of their needs met and life is easy for them? I used to do that. Working my ass off for them and their wellbeing while forgetting my own.

One of my favorite smart people @carljung said, “The greatest disservice in the life of a child is the unlived life of the parent.”

That sunk deep into my heart. My mother laid in bed most of my life, but I heard she was a powerhouse. That back in the day everyone loved her and if Janice couldn’t make it, the event would be canceled. I would have died to see that lady. Mental illness took her down, but I appreciate knowing the stories of how she really was under the illness.

My kids have a mother who models following her dreams. Who shares her heart and heartache because it’s a part of life. They have a mother who models adventure, fun, confidence, kindness, and at times fierceness.

When they see their mother hit rock bottom in heartache or feel great disappointment for something that felt important to her- she is modeling feeling, letting it flow through her and not hiding.

Crying, yelling, singing, dancing, talking to strangers, evolving, doing her heart’s desire, making mistakes and making amends. Moving only in the direction of joy. This is what my baby’s to see.

Strength, vulnerability, honesty, self-love, joy, fun, feeling all of the feels, forgiving, wild-heart, learning from each experience, freedom, self-expression- all that good sh*t.

I don’t want to shelter my children. I want them to know they must explore and try and learn for themselves all while knowing I am here. Never wavering, never leaving, never listening to the judgment of others. I’ve got their backs. They’ve got their life experience and I’ve got them.

Parenting for me is remembering myself and what brings me joy and as I guide,, listen, see, and love my kids while showing them a life well-lived.

Your children are watching. What are you modeling for them? Think about it. Whatever you have done up to this moment is exactly what you were supposed to be doing, but the next moment we can make a new decision. Let’s choose happiness, joy, and a deep connection.

Let’s love ourselves so much that it bubbles out on those around us.

Be good to yourself. You are the reason you are on this planet at this time. Do your thing you sassy machine.

I love you.

I am not perfect, but my kids see all of me.

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